Bareback Sex

Personal Opinion by Gaystoryman

Copyright © 2007 All Rights Reserved

With AIDS no longer being the death sentence it used to be, there is a growing rise in unprotected sex among gays, and others. The scare that was AIDS has been lessened, thanks to the marvels of medicine, where today an infected HIV+ person can live to a normal age, or close to it. It wasnít the instantaneous death sentence, so we have began to drift away from the mantra of ĎSuiting Upí or ĎDonning the Raincoatí that used to be prevalent among gay sex partners.

Yet there are other risks out there, lurking and ready to lay low those who are easy marks. I donít know, but the complaint of it not feeling right, just isnít good enough. Least for me or the wife.

I have been with Dave for Ten Years now, and you know condoms are a part of our sex life. I trust him, he trusts me, but that doesnít mean the condoms stay on the store shelf. To begin with, there is no way of knowing how long the virus can remain dormant. Some Doctors say five to ten years, others say longer. Some even say it could remain dormant for decades, and you know, that just ainít worth the risk.

I love David, and no way would I want to put him at risk, nor him me. There is a chance, so weíll take the safe route thank you very much. Besides, it really isnít all that bad, least not if you use a bit of imagination. Having sex, putting a condom on, can be very erotic actually. Like I write in the stories, it is not just about the sex, the penetration, but how one gets there that counts.

Frankly I think we ignore that aspect of our lifestyle way too much. Foreplay isnít a game, it is a whole part of having sex, least when you love someone. The hunt, the chase, is all part of enjoying the sex you eventually get. Putting a condom on a nice stiff uncut cock, I mean come on, tell me that isnít a bit of turn on for you? To unroll that thin rubber, to be touching that throbbing pole?

Turns me on.

What worries me though is that teenagers are ignoring the past. They have grown up in a world where AIDS isnít the killer, and STDís, well they have never it seemed to be a priority among society. Again that is society ignoring the problem, hoping that it will just somehow go away.

Take the Pope, who still says that condoms are some sort of sin. I mean for Christís sake, if using a condom will save one child, one errant teenager, is that not worth anything? Maybe God doesnít want people to have sex outside of marriage, but in the real world, that just doesnít happen. People have sex outside of marriage, and some even have it with others while married, so shouldnít protection be allowed?

I am not asking the Church to sell condoms, just to come into this world, instead of some ancient age. The Knights would go off to the crusades, leaving a trusted friend with a key, the woman in a chastity belt. Like that worked?

Sex is natural, it is all part of GODís grand design, and yet somehow we deny its existence, while putting innocent lives at risk.

STDís canít kill, least if treated they canít, but left untreated some can. Some are considered to have reached an epidemic proportion, but condoms still arenít being allowed? Bush and his Abstinence Only crap even ties foreign aid to the need to teach Abstinence Only, ignoring the benefits of using condoms. To me that is just sick.

Unprotected Sex, just isnít smart. However, it is a choice we make, as consenting adults. However, teenagers are at a disadvantage. With Abstinence Only and the other tripe by people like Mitt Romney, Pope Benedict, kids are having unprotected sex. They are not sufficiently informed of the risks, to make that decision. Partly because that information is deliberately withheld from them in schools. Least if the school wants federal funding.

That is just wrong.

Teenagers have a false sense of immunity, that nothing bad can happen to them. Yet when parents donít teach them the truth, and schools are prevented, we are all put at risk. We arenít just endangering the kids, but our future. We stunt their risk assessment abilities, and that only leads to more infections.

Sex using condoms is fun. I enjoy it, and while many donít, well, it is their choice. I know in the past, before David, I had sex with a fair number of men. Those who didnít want to use a condom, were the oneís who I passed on. It just wasnít worth the risk, but that was my choice, based on information, on education.

Today there isnít that level of education available to many, and not just teenagers, but adults as well.

We have become a selfish society. Somewhere along the line, we have lost touch with what is important. If a partner wants unprotected sex, we arenít obligated to agree. Those who crave it, have no business trying to force their will on their partner, yet that is what some do. Porn videos now display unprotected sex, but some take no precautions whatsoever in making sure their models are safe.

While what two consenting adults do, is their business, society should make sure they know all the risks.

 

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